Thursday, April 13, 2006

Dissolution of Marriage

My husband was kind enough to make an appointment for us today with an Attorney to discuss the "Dissolution of Marriage". I didn't even realize that legally it is no longer called "divorce".

"Dissolution" - that seems appropriate. Let's look at what that word means...

dis·so·lu·tion
1)Decomposition into fragments or parts; disintegration.

Yeah, my life is about to be pulled into fragments...
2)Indulgence in sensual pleasures; debauchery.
Now this one sounds good. I'm ready to indulge...
3)Termination or extinction by disintegration or dispersion.
Without a doubt, this is a termination.
4)Extinction of life; death.
It feels like a death. At times I can't breathe....
5)Annulment or termination of a formal or legal bond, tie, or contract.
And the "legal" stuff is part of all this for sure. As if it isn't bad enough already. Now we must pay for the torture!

So what else have I learned about this thing called "Dissolution of Marriage"? Basically, I have no choice in the matter. "In effect, ..if a married person wishes to terminate the marriage, he/she can do so, even if the other spouse disagrees."

California Dissolution of Marriage FAQ's -
1) What are the grounds for a dissolution of marriage?
California was the first state to implement the "no-fault divorce" concept. In California, a dissolution of marriage can be granted if the court finds there to be "Irreconcilable differences" that have cause an irrevocable breakdown of the marriage. In effect, this means that if a married person wishes to terminate the marriage, he/she can do so, even if the other spouse disagrees.
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3) After the dissolution case is filed, how long does it take to get the marital status terminated?
Once the Respondent is served with the Summons and Petition, the marital status cannot be terminated until six months have passed since the service was effected.
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I have refrained from spilling all the dirty laundry...trust me I have wanted too. But I will resist..suffice to say....

I am hurt.
This really really really sucks!!!

For those that have already been there to listen and to encourage me, THANKS!!!!!! It really does help.

Looking forward to the HUC3 event tonight. I played another HU match this morning and won. So that is 7 out of 8 for my last few HU matches. I think I'm gonna move up to the $10 games. At least that is something. Perhaps "dissolution" is just the thing to make me a serious and dangerous player. So watch OUT!!!!!!!

Laters....

22 comments:

FatBaldGuy said...

Veneno, you have my sympathy. Ending a relationship is never easy. I hope you find good things ahead.

TripJax said...

Thinking of you in this tough time V. When you need to get things off your mind, hit me up on the IM. Nothing like a heads-up match to forget the real world...

Wes said...

Damn, I'm so sorry.

presidentdavelee said...

V, I am so sorry. You'll be in my prayers during this hard time. If you want to hit me up this weekend, I'm willing to take to take another heads-up beating from you.

kipper said...

I am so sorry. I will be sure to stop on AIM and say hello.

Sorry I have been out of touch lately!

Hands, hands and more hands!!

TenMile said...

Sorry.

Hang on to youself, Poison. It was not ALL your fault.

littleacornman said...

Your in my thoughts too Veneno.Stay strong Gal.

HighOnPoker said...

Hey V. I've got your back. Best of luck. I hope you and the Mr. can keep things as amicable as possible. It's a tough world, and shit like this just reminds us all of that. Just know that you've got friends.

biggestron said...

Yo Yo

So sorry to hear. You have a network of invisible (but now audible!) friends here for you.

Veneno said...

Thank you soooo much! It helps to have you for support.

GaryC said...

V,

Having been through exactly what you are going through, I can tell you this: It will get better.

Read Joe Speaker, the man is putting it down every day like it was meant to be put down and his points are right on the money.

Do your best by those kids, that's all you can do...and move one. I know you are strong enough to handle the situation.

Hang in there.

G

SirFWALGMan said...

GL V, everyone pulling for you.. Have Joe make up a good name like Douche Bag Poet for your soon to be Ex.

iggy said...

V,

Been a while and I am saddened to hear about your troubles. You've got a friend to lean on whenever you want. Wishing you all the best.

23skidoo said...

I'm really sorry to hear this V. I know I would not be dealing with this as well as you seem to be. I sincerely hope this works out for the best.

FishyMcDonk said...

So very sorry to hear this. Through all this and you still organised HUC. Thanks for that, it was fun. I think you should spill, writing it down can help.

Jestocost said...

Oy. That really sucks; and I speak from experience (albeit in the distant past).

Believe me when I say that you'll (eventually) find yourself in a better place. Although the journey will have its twists and turns.

iamhoff said...

Damn, sorry to hear about that. Wish I had some insight to offer, but the best I can do is send a vitual hug and good vibes. Waffles and Gcox are right, we need a nickname for some good haikus. See ya round the chat room.

fairnbalncd said...

An embrace and a smile for you Veneno. No advice helps. You'll find your way as I did with a smile for others until your cheeks hurt from holding it.

I'm always around... Somewhere...

Ingoal said...

Sorry to hear that V. I'll keep you and little Poison in my prayers...

surflexus said...

I echo what everyone here is saying V. We're here if you need us.

Drizztdj said...

I didn't even know there were problems. I wish you the best in working things out.

Slimeface said...

Hang tough.